I want to remind you that your teen is really sweet and loving. And I can hear some of you thinking, “You’ve got to be kidding, Fern. Have you been in my home lately?”
When interactions with your teen feel like a boxing match, this may be the opposite of how you feel about them. You’re sparring and throwing punches with words, ducking and weaving, trying to get the upper hand.
It becomes about being right and getting what you want. Both of you. In other words, it’s a battle for control.
It’s time to go back to your corners and rethink your strategy. The better strategy is to leave the ring altogether.
When you're in the heat of the moment, it’s easy to forget that your teen is still the sweet, kind, and loving person they’ve always been. The boxing gloves come on because both of you are hurting and struggling to be heard. But beneath the layers of frustration and conflict lies the same child you’ve always cherished.
Instead of going another round, take a deep breath and step out of the ring. Remember, this isn’t a competition; it’s a relationship, one that requires empathy, patience, and, most importantly, love.
By shifting your perspective, you can stop seeing your teen as an opponent and start seeing them as the person they truly are. It's in those moments of connection, rather than conflict, that you’ll find the loving bond you’re both craving.
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Fern Weis is a certified life coach who learned that caring and good intentions are not enough in parenting. In fact, they are often the problem! Fern supports parents of teens and young adults who are going through difficult situations, including addiction recovery. She helps parents release guilt, end enabling and confidently prepare their children to thrive through life's challenges. Her articles are featured in Thrive Global, Medium, Motherly, The Teen Mentor, and Bergen County Moms.
Learn more about coaching and classes at www.fernweis.com. And then download your free guide, "Five Powerful Steps to Get Your Teen to Talk." For information on Family Recovery programs, visit www.familyrecoverypartners.com.
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